Quote: If you have kind of been dating a gal, are you focusing 100% on reconcilling?
We were "dating" as friends for several months and quite frankly we discussed our marriages more than anything else. Last fall when W quite angrily and emphatically made it clear that we weren't EVER getting back together (and I knew from sources, [snooping, I know....] that she was still carrying a torch for OM) anyway... we started actually dating! And then in Jan I stepped way back b/c I knew as did she that I really wanted things to work out. We still go and do things, but teenagers are more involved than we are at this point!
Quote: So, do enjoy life, but I would caution you not to do anything right now that would jeopardize your reconcilliation or add fuel to the fire, if you really want your M to work.
Well, over the past few months W has made it quite clear that we WILL be divorced. She has filed (twice!) and last week my L filed the response. She's just waiting on a court date. And has said she needs to see this through, spend some time alone and work on her, be independent, etc. What.Ever. So, while I'm not doing anything right now that will jeopardize things... I'm not seeing it change. And frankly, it would take a lot of work on both our parts, and a lot of growing up on her part and being responsible for her happiness to make things work. I've actually got an appt. tom. to speak w/ a pastor friend of the family that I wanted to get some advice from.
And so far I've not followed W's bestfriends "advice" to me which was to say the hell w/ her and go out and "scrump"! Ah, NO! At least not unless there are some strong emotions involved. I'm not a O.N.S. kind of guy.
