Quote: Now for the tricky part. I WANT to tell her that even after everything that she did last year I'm not carrying that anger/bitterness anymore because I decided to let GOD take care of that; that I TRUST HIM to take care of the crappy stuff and to look after our marriage and I'll do what I can do; namely, be kind and do the things a good husband would do. That I realized last fall that over the years I NEVER thought about leaving because I always trusted that things would work out for us; that even though I wasn't explicit about religion, that showed me the amount of FAITH I have always had that I could just TRUST HE would take care of us. I just "knew" everything would be okay w/ us.
You know you can't tell her all this. YOU are the only one operating from a position of faith in your sitch. To tell her about that, would only alienate her. Especially if it is foreign to her. It kind of makes the WAS feel like "oh, I'll show YOU. I AM the captain of my ship!". You get it? So you can't go there. DO trust God but don't bring it up to her. Let Him reveal Himself to her in ALL His GLORY in His own time. One thing I know, He'll show up when she is ready to receive Him.
Now, you are operating from a position of faith but it is a weak one. Please let me explain. To just "believe" is actually easy. You have to find out WHY you believe. Find out what GOD says about you and who you are and what is YOURS based on your faith in HIM. Do that and you will then operate from a POSITION OF AUTHORITY. When you stand on His Word as a believer, all THE Authority of Jesus is behind YOU. That's why it is so important to claim His Word over your sitch. There is not a demon in hell or on earth, operating in ANY form or fashion, that doesn't have to BOW at the Name of JESUS!
So there you go. As we say (only half-jokingly) in Pentacostal circles "Name it and claim it".
