Oh, I did leave her alone...starting back in Aug.. We would have maybe one talk or two a month and then in Nov right after what would have been our 20th anniv. she very angrily said we WERE getting DIVORCED and that was that. I did not speak to her of our R until Feb. 1 when I left a letter of apology to her and she replied last Sun a week ago in an email, hence the emails back and forth last week. That has been all the talking about our R that has gone on for the past several months! And we rarely see each other as the kids are big enough to be on their own. We may go 2-3 weeks w/o seeing each other. Email only about the kids. OM is out of the pic, has been since AUG. She knows he will have nothing to do w/ her until she is divorced. He told her they were done, but she thinks that was so he wouldn't feel guilty about our D. That that was him trying to push her back to me... Who knows! All I know is her failure to deal w/ my indiscretion 16.5 years ago is NOT all this is about. Her selfesteem issues, lack of confidence when she was younger, etc.. Issues w/ her late Mother that obviously can no longer be discussed; all these factor into things... But I'M the cause of ALL her misery and didn't ever show her I loved her, etcetcetcetc..... blahblahblah..
