You have to stop the pursuit. Have you read DR? If not, read it three times and then re-read as necessary. The more you pursue her and try to talk about the R, the faster she is going to run from you. I'm speaking from experience. I did the same things when my W dropped the bomb on me. We were probably headed for a seperation until I completely smothered her. Now she has filed for D and is trying to get it over with as quickly as possible. What you are going to have to learn is that you can't change her heart or her mind. You can only fix the things you need to fix in you. Changing her will be left to Someone well above you. You just have to pray that when the changes to come to her, she will see the improved you and be attracted to that. There is no way she is going to be attracted to you right now while she perceives you to be smothering her. Spend this time consulting with your Maker. Find out who the man is that He wants you to be. Then work on becoming that man. That really is the answer.
