No Changes... She flat out does NOT want to discuss US, the R, nothing. Just wants to get the D over w/ and move on. WHY oh WHY is she so hung up on the 1989 issues when she still won't address the fact that she carries bitterness/resentment and wouldn't completely discuss that. My C has pointed out that back in the 80's (!) she was immature even then and selfish in the way she expected me to react to things or that she didn't feel she had to carry her share of the load..( Don't even ask me how many times I asked HER to find something for US to go do to have fun!) It was almost like if she didn't come up w/ the idea, then she couldn't be blamed for having a lousy time. If it was MY idea then she could vent if she didn't like it. And the whole family issue; she wanted to have kids right then and wasn't the least bit interested in MY feelings and concerns about being a father... I wanted to be a father, just not right then, I had fears, doubts, concerns, and she just dismissed them out of hand... Now of course all that matters are HER feelings. That we don't have a marriage, she hasn't been happy for a long time, we don't have anything in common. That I caused problems by going off on sailing trips w/o the rest of the family (never mind I ALWAYS asked if it was okay and offered to have her come meet me...!) And last week she bitched me out because I YELLED at OM. (never once have I YELLED at him... don't even raise my voice; I just told him what I thought!) And she says HE isn't to blame for us divorcing. TRUE. Didn't help though, esp when she tells me she's confused, then she still loves me and we need to work things out and the next me the computer captures her emailling him!!! go figure..
