So last Sun I was picking up the kids and asked her a favor; she said she'd email me later, that a lot of things have happened lately and she needs to tell me things.
That night I get a lengthy email thanking me for the letter of apology I had written her about my brief affair in 1989 (!) but she went on to say that all that uncertainty caused her to fall out of love w/ me and me not ever telling her the truth killed our marriage and I wasn't the kind of husband she wanted, etc etc etc.... Long story short we traded emails all week and I responded to her points and said how lonely I felt because she excluded me. Nothing new was said.
Bottom line is she blames ME and the 1989 affair for why we are getting divorced NOW. And says OM has nothing to do w/ thing because she told me before she told him how wonderful she thought he was!!! (Yet she was sneaking around and LYING to me about it) Esp. since she had second thoughts and was telling me we needed to work things out all the while she was still emailing him!
So my ? is... Could it be possible that this really has nothing to do w/ her parents deaths, her feelings of inadequacy, her Mom not loving her unconditionally?? That it really is just simply as she says?? She still seems to think that OM and her are going to pick right up where they left off (IF he's grown up and changed how he interacts w/ Mommy; her words!) Yeah, Right!
I so strongly believe GOD HEALS ALL WOUNDS and as I read the stories here on this forum they make our problems seem like a lover's spat, not a full blown divorce!
