Reconcillation is not all that! Moving on!

[BeingMe]

I have been thinking the same thing. I have gained nothing since he begged me to stay within the M. In my case, however, we had been married for more than 19 years (20 years next month), so I had more invested in the M, plus we had a family together. However, I am 48 years old, and also not keen to waste much more time on someone who is not plugged in, and doesn't show any positive changes. He has until the end of this year to figure it out, or I am out, and perhaps sooner. Life is too short, and I want my piece of happiness too, especially now that I have worked so hard on regaining my confidence, self-esteem, and my sense of worth. I forgive him for what he has put me and our kids through, but he has a lot of work to do to get my trust back, and if that doesn't return, then it is all pointless. I even moved to a new city trying to build on our relationship, but I have just ended up lonely and feeling disconnected from everything. Thank goodness for my studies, and I work out a lot. I am looking and feeling so much better about myself and my DH is not interested, or it doesn't seem as if he is.

Anyway, enough of my venting. Good luck for your future!