I think that reconciling should be very carefully done...make sure you go back for the right reasons, namely make sure they want YOU back for the right reasons. I was with someone who went back to his ex-wife after 3 years post divorce for them. He was warned by everyone to not hurry back into it, but he did anyway. After 2 years, she did the same things she did before. Another affair, hated him, kicked him out repeatedly - and he regretted going back tremendously and wanted back into my life. I had already moved on and would never trust him again. If he didn't love me enough to stay with me after all they had been through, then I knew it could happen again. He was so desperate for her love, he would have taken it back no matter what the circumstances. She only wanted him back because he had someone else and she was suffering financially. Once she inherited her dad's money and built a nice new home, she didn't need him anymore and she has remarried her affair partner. Just tread carefully...their heart has to be in the right place, and they need to prove it. As for me, life is too short also. Anytime a relationship is lop-sided, where one loves the other more, it usually just doesn't work. It is very sad, but true.
