Hello everyone! For those of you who know me and for those who are about to read this, I will try to make this brief. I am a DB'er of June 2004 when my WAW left me, she had an affair with someone 17 years her senior and she is only 39 today. My second marriage, her 4th...Married for only two years when she left. I found this site and it took me only 8 months to win her back thru this process called divorce busting!
What a joy that day was when she begged me back in her life... We stilled lived apart about 37 miles during our reconcillation, saw each other according to our schedules, attempted counsling, etc. We knew at the moment where and what we wanted out of life! It was soooooo surreal and comforting knowing I had my soul mate back in my life.
Well let me tell all of you something. Those of you struggling with emotions, tears, fear, anxiety, sense of loss...It truly wasnt and isnt worth it...we are so blinded by thinking they were the best thing for us...the only thing it gave me was more aggravation, more attempts in trying to brings US together and we didnt have US anymore. It does take two folks! I spent 8 months getting her back, then 14 months in working US back to being better than we were before and it wasnt there anymore.
The kicker for me was this past Thanksgiving she opted to spend it with her family who lives locally rather than with her husband...not even half of the day with me..and that did it for me..there were odds and ends I saw in her throughout the year...kept track of these things and basically kept my eyes open..monitored the results! If she even cared for me as she so claimed, then that holiday I would have been with her or even invited to her families house..thats another story because after she left me, her family decided to shut me out like I had to prove something to ...but meanwhile it was there daughter who had the OM!
So Im filing for the D soon and moving on with my life.. I am 47 and life is too short...My advice for all of you is search deeply, dont let life pass u by because of one person.. you all had a life before they runied it!
