Hope-
I don't think it is any coincidence that both of our H's do practically the same things...more proof that they are reading from some script. As a lot of people have said (you included ), things change from day to day. There really is no rhyme or reason to their behaviors. My H used to tell me how good it felt to spend time with me, and then when he was without me, he would feel miserable b/c he would have all of these negative thoughts. I don't even think they understand what is going on in their heads and their hearts. I honestly think that they are like the tides of the sea: coming close, and retreating...doing some dance where only they know the steps. It is different every day. I don't know how to explain it...i don't think one can. All we can do is live our lives in a way that feels right to US, and not to anyone else.

Perhaps you agreeing with H about the amount of $$$ to contribute made him realize that you weren't going to fight him (opening the cage door), and that has raised his curiosity. If you haven't already read it, get Love Must be Tough by James Dobson. Very religious overtones, but makes a lot of sense (similar stuff to what MWD says).

I too feel happy whenever i have a positive interaction with my H...and i start to feel like "the fat lady hasn't sang yet." So, i understand the effect his behaviors have on your mood...

Anyway, i know this post is all over the place. I hope you have an enjoyable evening. I think i need a drink today...tough day (and i got peed on!) Thinking of you...