Hey hope- Just checking in with you today. I'm glad that you and H were able to agree on the amount that was affordable for you to contribute every month. As for your belongings: as you know, my H and I have a list that we made up as part of the interspousal agreement. I know that you don't want to go that route and be so "formal" about this stuff, but i suggest you make a list of what you are absolutely not willing to part with, stuff you don't care about, and stuff that you have mixed feelings about. Present it to you H...i bet there will be less of a fight about it than you might anticipate. My H and I really didn't fight about that stuff...just about the house itself. So, try not to worry about it...yeah right.
I am sorry that things are going in a direction that you don't want them to go. But, i think that NYS gives you some excellent advice. Try to focus on yourself right now, and try to stop thinking about H and what his intentions are.
