Molliew, My thanks to you again. These replies really help me get through the tough moments. I guess I gave H. some peace of mind, being agreeable to what he wanted but also not putting myself in an unfair position. I want to be fair, too. As much as I miss my family right now, I feel in my heart that my place is still here, near H. and in our home. If I can manage it, then I can stay at my job which I really enjoy. And, keep puppy & kitty together.
Here is something I was thinking about: puppy. H. is crazy for puppy, but has left him here with me at home because I am around more to care for him. If H. plans to live in an apt. there is no way he will be able to take puppy; there are not many apts. around here that allow a dog. Just stay in your house as long as you can, paying what you can For now, this is what I will do. It seems like the most logical solution for the time being.
I have a question though: if H. gets his own apt. and wants to move some of the things from our house over to his apt., how exactly do I handle this? What can I agree on? If we aren't divorcing but he wants to do this, what is the right way to go about it? Just let him take whatever we can agree upon?
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
