I don't have an attorney although I have been to consultations. I figured if H wants a legal sep., he is going to have to take care of this all by himself. I don't feel that I should have to lift a finger towards it. Nothing that H. is suggesting (yet) seems unfair, really. Well, yeah, ALL of this is unfair, but I'm being practical. I am trying to be patient, and I feel I have been. He's been gone 6 mo. now, even though it feels a lot longer. I honestly never thought things would get this far, but they have, and I am trying to manage as best as I can. There is still a part of me that wonders how he can be so sure of himself when he never once really tried to see if we could work things out. I don't know how he deals with that. It's one of the reasons I have tried to be so patient; because I'm still hoping for a chance like that. If we can't, then fine, but how do we know? This is the most frustrating part for me.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
