mollie,
Hi. I did post on your thread!
Thank you for your encouragement. No, he did not mention getting a D. It's funny but I can't even recall when he's ever uttered that word through all this.
Believe me, not having to talk to him is usually best for me. Ask any of my friends here; they can easily tell when I've had a H. encounter and when I haven't. My words reflect it; I do much better after a few days of no contact.
Honestly, I'm not trying to pressure him, but sometimes things get said in the midst of these necessary conversations. I try to do it all right, but I'm not an A+ student in DB'ing yet.

I did call him back; he is working tonight. So, I told him that I had thought about what he said and I just couldn't cover half. He said, "Ok, can you cover xxx?" and since he suggested the exact amount I had thought I could pay, I told him yes. He was very agreeable to this.
We talked a few minutes more about the other bills, how they would be paid, etc. Most of this we had already worked out before. He says he is not moving in with anyone; he just doesn't want to live where he's at anymore. There are 2 guys that rent rooms there too; I don't know if they've had problems, or perhaps it's because o.w. can't really spend the night there with him. I guess it is pointless to try to figure out why.
He did ask me again what I planned to do; stay here, or move. To answer that, I would have to bring up a D., because frankly that is what it depends on. If I think there is a chance that giving him some time will help, then yes I will stay here a while. But if it's really over, and he wants to file, then I would be leaving this area.
I told him I do not want to leave my current job; he knows how much I love it there, and I do have the opportunity to move up and make more in a few years. He seemed to understand this, but he said that if he can't afford to get his own apt. and help pay our mortgage, then he's going to have to sell the house anyway. I told him I understood.
I hope I am making the right choices. Nothing ever feels solidly right anymore. Sometimes I still can't believe he is behaving this way.

Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.