Hope-
Sorry that convo didn't go well.
I don't want to get too nosy into your financial matters, but i will share with you what has gone on b/w my H and I in relation to money and the house.

When i first moved out, i was giving H money every month towards house expenses (about one-fourth of the total expenses). When i moved back and he moved out, he insisted that i pay basically half of all of the expenses, which was VERY difficult. But, i know he did it in hopes that he would force me out of the house...that didn't do it. I did eventually move out again and started giving him money every month again, but much less than i had been giving, basically b/c my H makes about 2 and a half times more money than me. When we signed the interspousal agreement, we had decided that i would no longer give him money every month. That didn't last long. So, i now give him money, but much less than i had been giving him. What he told me was that he thought it was fair that i contribute something towards the cost of running a house that i would be getting a percentage of when we D. Can you tell your H that: if he wants to share in the profit from the sale of the house (whenever that is), then he has to contribute his fair share now? My H and i also discussed the buy-out option. I couldn't afford it...if i did buy him out, i would have had to borrow money from my parents and would have just turned around and sold the house anyway. I refused to be bought out b/c i wanted the house sold...i wasn't giving up rights to OUR home while he still lived there.

I know you said you can't afford to pay half the mortgage if you are paying other bills. Can you total up the monthly expenses and then split them?

I don't know...just something to think about...i didn't mean to hijack. Just wanted to let you know that i have been there, and it sucks.

Try very hard to detach from him. Don't ask any more questions about the future of your R. Just agree with him. You aren't going to change his mind right now. He is convinced he is doing the right thing. Don't get into a power struggle with him over it. I know that D is not what you want, but fighting him isn't getting you anywhere. I know i am being a hypocrite, and i am sorry if i am being harsh. But, i am just angry for you, and i am sorry that he is hurting you so much. God, i hate them all!