Hi, I am so sorry that I don't recognize you; do you post in another section here? Thank you for replying here to me; I am glad that you are hopeful for me!
he just wanted to be in control of his own money. He wanted to pay his own bills and make his own budget It's funny that you say this to me tonight. It has reminded me of a previous conversation I had with my H. about all of this. He did tell me that he wanted to be in control of his own paycheck. It's not that he doesn't want to help me pay the bills, he just wants to NOT have to call me all the time, reporting to me what he's spent, and where. I can understand this and to be honest, I don't like that he has to "report" to me this way, either. I have never controlled what he spent or anything, I just kept the books, so to speak. With him away alot due to his job(s), it has had to be this way; I was the one at home taking care of the household, so I had to know how to pay the bills, balance the acct., etc. Maybe it is like you said, he just needs to do it on his own. I will try to be supportive and not take it so personally, as if he's moving further away. Thank you for sharing this with me; it really helped me tonight.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
