Hope, your post is one I follow because I'm hopeful for you. Just wanted to let you know, when my H separated his money and bills from mine, I felt the same way. I felt it was a sign that he was moving away from me further. However, he just wanted to be in control of his own money. He wanted to pay his own bills and make his own budget. It really had nothing to do with our separation. After we reconciled in June of 2005, after being apart for almost a year, we continue to keep our money and bills separate but he makes a fair contribution to the household stuff. It has really cut own on arguments about finances. So maybe that's all your H wants to do too. Just try it out for himself.
