shocked, I agree; if not for the posters here, I would be lost. Re: what H. is or is not telling o.w., I really have no idea. Maybe he is opening up to her. I can tell you that back in Dec. after they got back together, he told me that he thought he WAS depressed, that he was going back to counseling, etc. Why? I know it's because he and o.w. had a long talk the day prior and she must have told him this is what she thought and recommended. As far as I know, he never did go back to counseling.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
