It bothers me that he says he is not depressed, because from where I stand he certainly seems to be acting that way.
They never tell you they're depressed. If they did, they would also get help. My W does the same thing yet she's clearly depressed most of the time or if not, doing a great job of behaving along the traditional definitions of depression (tired all the time, lethargic, lack of interest in thing once of great interest, sleeps too much/too little, eating problems, etc). It pains me to think that she/he could get some help for their depression and maybe things would be clear to them, even if it became clear they needed to be gone forever.
