Thanks, cobra. You are so right about confronting the reality of splitting. It's one thing to fantasize about wiggling your nose and being instantly transported to your idyllic future, but what you have to go through... and then chances are, you'll take all your attitudes and expectations with you and attract the same partner under another name (I seem to do that over and over). Not to mention the financial trauma and the child trauma. It's a big step and things have to be pretty bad to go there.
