Quote: I see now that this feeling was due to many things. Some that I can think of are: · Projection of anger toward my mother onto my wife (who did a lot to enflame that anger) · A sense of self pity, a longing for sympathy and understanding, feeling my W did not hear me, nor want to hear me · Acting out in a passive aggressive way and not empowering myself · Responding to a shift in the relationship, trying to regain balance, reduce my feelings of anxiety and fear of abandonment · An unwillingness in my wife to help alleviate my fears, which actually empowered her · All this resulted in great frustration on my part, and manifest in anger.
Cobra, I don't think you've told us how you got out of this mental place. I'd sure like to hear some details on your thread. If you posted about this while I was away from the board, maybe you could just hit me with a few highlights. Thanks.
