Fran, I am so sorry for the situation at the movies. I see very little wrong with the letter except the last line or two. To end the letter with an attack, however mild (the crap behavior line), will put him back into a "defend his position" mode. My wife and I suffer from a somewhat similar issue, the attempt to color anything the other says or does in a negative light. As I put it to her we do not trust each other's good intentions. I would try to end the letter on a more constructive note, maybe saying that you understand some of the stresses he is under but he needs to understand that you have his and the children's best interests at heart and when he feels otherwise he should step back and try to remember that.
Good luck.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
