"It is not so much that the real is is left undiscussed it is that the real issue is about someone or something else that he couldn't or wouldn't pick a fight with so he picks a fight with me to discharge his angry feelings."
Gotcha. He is transferring his bad feelings from something else on to you. That is definitely something you need to set a firm boundary on. You should be willing to be a shoulder to cry on, so to speak, but not a whipping boy. I think most of us are guilty to some degree of taking things out on our SOs, but it doesn't make it right, and it shouldn't be tolerated.
"If when I walk away he tries to pursue me to carry on the fight then I am going to walk further away - like out the door for the rest of the night."
I think your response answers GEL's questions. You might also consider a cumulative response over several encounters. In other words, don't say I will walk to the other room first every time, then out the door for the night. Walk out of the room the first time he does it. If he does it again another night, START by walking out of the door for the night. Again, this is just something to consider, do what you feel is right for your situation.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
