You don't see any middle ground between wanting sex 3x a week....and nothing? 1st off....if your goal (lets just say it's your goal) is 3x a week....you cannot start off with that, that will overwhelm the person who you say is ND (and would you make up your mind...is she ND or LD?) For a person who is LD/ND telling her that you want sex 3x a week...will make her think that's what she has to do NOW, not what you'd like to eventually work up to.
On the smothering part of things. We as the HD partner do tend to overdo it and smother our partner when we are desperately trying to reach them....and that's generally a HUGE turnoff. My H has told me that he felt like he couldn't relax around me because he thought that everything had to lead to sex (which was incorrect, but it was his perception)....if an LD/ND person cannot relax around you without feeling like everything is sex, sex, sex...you aren't going to get anywhere.
CeMar...you STILL haven't responded to anyone's suggestions about YOU seeing a C. You need to. You keep asking the same questions on here, you keep receiving the same answers. Seeing a C on your own would do you a great deal of help.
