I want to try to help you understand why you H is "smothering" you...he's trying desperately to reach you, to get through to you, to have affection from you. Unfortunately this is what I would call a knee-jerk reaction in his situation...it's something I think many of us HD folks here on the BB did/have done....and it had the same affect on our SO as it's having on you...making you pull away. I just want you to be aware of why he's doing it.
To help the two of you communicate for the short-term...would you both consider seeing a MC? I think the two of you could greatly benefit. Also, I think in your sitch a homeopath could really help as well.
Another question for you...when you two talk about this problem (and please tell me you do talk about it) how would a conversation between the two of you go? We might be able to give you some pointers on how to make yourself clear to you H....or give you ideas on how to come to compromise.
