Thanks so much for your replies. I will give you some more info. My hubby and I are both 33 and have been together for 14 years or so (we have only ever slept with each other!). We have 2 boys aged 4 1/2 and 2 years.
Everything GEL said is right regarding my husband's feelings, he does feel 'unloved' but on the other hand he tends to smother me which makes me pull away. We really need to find a happy medium I guess! Ever since having the kids I just can't stand being touched in a sexual way. I just want my body to myself sometimes. I have asked him countless times if he can just hug me without having to touch me in a sexual manner all the time. He has improved slightly but his other brain takes over more often than not!
The other unfortunate side effect from these imbalances is that my memory is terrible and any literary eloquence I used to have has gone out the window. This is very frustrating as I always was pretty good at both and now I have to really think hard about the simplest thing. So please forgive me if I stop making any sense (because I have probably forgotten what I was talking about).
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
