What now?

[RJ]

Hi all, I've been lurking for a while and could really use your input!

For about the last 2 years or so (since our last child) I have had no desire for sex. I don't think about it, don't initiate it, don't even miss it. In the past I have rolled over and let him get on with the job just to keep him happy, but it was at the expense of my self esteem. Most of our arguments are caused by the lack of 'affection'. We recently saw a counsellor (individually) and it was suggested that I have my hormones tested for imbalances. The results came back that all my hormone levels except for estrogen were under the normal ranges. At first it was 'woo hoo! I am not a nutjob, it's not all in my head' (as my husband has told me many times). Then the doctor said, 'unfortunately, there's not really much we can do about it because they don't really know much about DHEAS which is the steroid/hormone that would be affecting your libido'. Well grrrrreat. What now?

I know that a lot of my lack of desire has manifested from our arguments. The more we argue about it the more turned off the whole thing I get, to the point where I don't even want to touch him in case he gets turned on. We have each seen a counsellor individually and will continue, but now I know there is a physical problem it all seems more complicated and frustrating!

I have been researching stuff on the net about hormone imbalances for the past week but so far have not come across anything I don't already know. How can such a common problem be so overlooked by the medical community?

Think I might try a homeopath...

Thanks for listening!