Everything that seems like it will do good...Talking rationally, pleading begging, telling her you will change, demanding...all these things, all of them, will push her away and validate her in her mind.
I think the board you want is mid-life crisis, the "I love you, but I am not in love with you" is pretty standard for mid-life crisis...and I am sorry man, cause if it is a MLIC, then you are in for the long haul.
If you wife is worth fighting for, then your marriage is worth waiting for.
Pulling back is the correct thing to do, read Michele's book Divorce Remedy. Post here for support. Read the book, highlight it, and avoid the mistakes most people make BEFORE reading the book. It is THAT good.
How can someone do that...it is hard. It is very hard, but your journey to the end of this will be much much easier if you do.
Good luck.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
