Am I totally insane????

[hurtingagain]

Wow. I can't say I wouldn't tell the OW everything. That must have been hard to lie to her. Eventually you H will hang himself with her himself. I can understand that you want their R to die on it's own. Most do. It's like the OW don't believe the MAN will lie and cheat on them, too. The OW in my M, my H was sleeping with me while seeing her after he moved out. Now it appears he's done with her and just bar hoping, sleezing around. MLC, it's like some abducts your H and anything is possible.

I can't imagine your pain for those great days that seemed your R was better, then this. I would surround yourself with friends right now, pray alot and let your emotions out in private. I think you had something when you mentioned, this all came about when you went out with OM. But H thinks he stopped that, so now he can go back to OW and not worry. I wouldn't go with OM to get your H.

Are you seeing a C? If not, I would advise doing that asap. I feel for you and keep posting. Pour out your heartache.

I've been reading about detaching and think that would be good for you right now, to help you function.