Try and not take to heart too much when people comment to you about your H playing you.... People care but only see and hear what they want to... they will make comments like this, but at end of the day does it really matter what people think??
Its what you think, deep down what matters... You do what you want to do.. If you want to sleep with your H whilst he has OW ,then go ahead... if you dont, then dont...
Do you think deep down your h is playing you?? I dont think he is.... from your posts I see a confused man, who still loves his W and whats her in his life, but is also struggling to understand himself at the moment and what he really wants... I think you have to hang in there until the day you know 100% that you cannot carry on any more... As Imdi says, you decide how much you can endure... Look at my post today.......all my good advice to others went out the window... I endured so much, then today thats was it. I told my H exactly what I thought on a subject he brought up... We can only take so much
