Interesting thought though to give you a bit of control back - how do you think OW would feel if she knew he had been trying to get in bed with you??? I know its not nice but it does go to show that he isnt committed to his OW as much as he may make out or that you think...

I very much agree with this. In retrospect, I can tell you that there have been numerous times I spent with H. in the past several months (not just intimately) that, if o.w. knew about, would have made her go through the roof.

I think when they (WAHs) act this way with us it is showing how confused they really are about what they are doing. As a wise friend of mine said, we are their stability, their anchor, and don’t think they don’t know this.

Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.