think you need to try and eliminate all thoughts and questions that go through your head about what your H is doing right now, either on his own or with OW.. I used to beat myself up about things my H was doing but now I dont. Becuase they dont get you anywhere... I block thought them... And I do this by saying to myself - is thinking about this going to really make any difference or change anything? and the answer most of time is NO.. so dont waste your valuable time trying to work things out... Our H's are confused/mixed up at the moment and dont even know what they really want...
Interesting thought though to give you a bit of control back - how do you think OW would feel if she knew he had been trying to get in bed with you??? I know its not nice but it does go to show that he isnt committed to his OW as much as he may make out or that you think...
I know its so hard, but try and pretend the OW does not exist.. Keep being nice to your H when he contacts you and keep doing as many things as you can independently... Your H needs to see that you are not relying on him or that you dont need him... just be happy and friendly in his company - no R talk, no pressure.. in fact try and make him a bit jealous if you can.. try and go on a date....nothing heavy but it would do you good as well to spend evening in another males company...
