I got to the point where I felt like I wanted to give up on my H... had really had enough of trying and DB... I went out and met my BF and yes I did fall in love with him, but I suppose it was on the rebound. My BF came along and gave me attention when I really needed it...He helped me GAL and get on with my life... But deep down I suppose i knew I still had feelings for my H. When the honeymoon period wore off with my BF that is when I started to look at my H again... My H tried to get my attention the whole time I was with my BF but for the 1st few months I was not interested. Its only mean recently that my interest in my H has started again... I realise that I do love him and want to be back with him. I will never forget what my H did and how much he hurt me but I have forgiven him... The problem I have now is I want to be back with my H, but from his point of view he is a bit cautious and i suppose a bit ' well you didnt want me 3 months ago'..... kind of attitude... So what me and H are doing now is taking things slowly... seeing how we get on and letting our situ happen at is own pace until the the time is right...... Men can be selfish and immature ( soz guys) and my H attitude now is 'why should i jump straight back in with you, just coz you now want me coz things not gone as you planned with your BF'... My H sees OW... normally do not last longer than 2months... The minute they push him for a proper relationship he runs...He just wants to have fun... he has said that if he settle down again he wants it to be with me, no-one else.. I just think my H is going through a bit of a control faze. He wants to be the decider on when we start a full time relationship - he does not want to feel as though he has come back just becuase things with my BF are not working... hope this makes sense?
It must be very hard for you in terms of your H in a relationship with children... My H said it killed him when I met my BF and my D spent time with him... But I suppose you have to learn to accept it and let it go... I think you stand just as good chance as anyone does on this site to make things work... Time is the key essence....if you meet someone else and it feels right then go with it.... Just try and always do though what is right for you.. My mistake was I based too many of my decisions on what I thought my H would want.... and this was where I slipped up...
