Hi all, Today I decided to start to let go of my H more, by not returning his calls right away, etc. I returned a call he made to me earlier after like 5 hours. Then tonite (it almost felt like a test since I did that today) he never called my D to say goodnite, so I decided to not call him, as I normally do. It seemed like a good idea, let him be responsible for his own actions, right? But then he called (40 minutes late) and said "why didn't u call me? you would normally call me if she went to bed and I hadn't called yet... It is after 8:30...I was on the phone..." So I replied "I'm sorry, but it is on you to call." But after he talked to our daughter (b/c she just happened to still be awake) I took the phone back as always and he said "Thanks" really sarcastically, and I asked him why the sarcasm, to which he replied "No, I meant thanks for letting me talk to her" He seemed mad or even hurt. And now I feel like a b*tch, or at least like he is thinking I am, and i feel guilty or like I might have made it worse. Is this the right track? Or no?? I wonder if he will think I am mad at him and feel guilty or if he will just blame me and think I am being nasty. Anyone?? I never realized how hard it would be to try to break his dependancy on me. I want him to feel my loss, but at the same time, I am scared for him to feel it. Crazy right? Thanks!!!!
