Hi c1t I don't mind your jumping in at all, I appreciate it! Your story actually gives me hope because I have been starting to feel a bit like there was no hope left. I am starting to see that the best way to get a WAS back is to give up on them, or on the relationship anyway. My fear has always been that if I did that, and then he wanted to get back together, that I wouldn't want him anymore. Like it would be too late. So I am curious : I know you said that you got a boyfriend and I think I read on another post you made somewhere that you had fallen in love with that BF.... I am just wondering how it came to be that you started seeing your H again after falilng in love with someone else? Did you realize you still loved him? Or that the other guy was an infatuation? Sorry to be asking so many questions. See, the thing is that I feel in my mind that I should give my H up, that he doesn't deserve me after how selfish he has been and how disrespectful, and that he is too immature to ever give me the R I want / need. But my heart tells me otherwise. Logically, yeah, it should be over. But emotionally, I feel we are meant to be together, and that there is a way to overcome the obstacles we are facing... like this is a test. So far my H reacts very angrily to anything remotely concerning me being with or being interested in anyone else. But I see from your sich that time could change that anger into a realization of what he is throwing away. Also, does your H have one OW or he just dates? Cuz my H has literally jumped into a whole new R, with someone he just met two months ago, brings her to meet family and friends, etc. Even spends time with her and her 2 year old daughter, which I HATE cuz it feels like he has replaced our daughter, even though I know in his heart that is not the case. It just stings. I wish he were just out on the town and partying, hooking up or dating. But a whole new R??? WHY?!?!? Anyway, thanks again for the input.
