hope you dont mind me jumping in but have read through your thread and was releived to see females with similar situ's with their H's as mine...
My H and I have 2yr old - split up when she was 10months.. I DB for 10 months thinking things were working... until found out he had been seeing OW... He felt guilty, moved back in for 2 weeks and then we fell out again.. I could not accept the infidelity, issued him ultimatums left, right and centre which of course he could not fulfill. in the end I got fed up and went out and met someone else... My H moved out and for first 2-3 months he would hardly speak to me as he was so jealous... I fell into R with my new BF and really did not care about my H..But these past 2 months my H and I have started seeing each other again...He still has OW, will not let them go...BUT he wants to carry on seeing me and sleeping with me... He says he needs me, cant live without me, still loves me.... BUT wont knock OW on the head yet until he is sure me and him will work...
I know how you feel......every day I question myself as to why am I doing this? am i being a doormat? should i tell him no more contact until he wants to comit etc etc.
BUT I dont !
1 thing I have learned which I will share with you, is everbodies situ is different... For me, sleeping with my H has brought us closer together, and renewed our R and even though he wont comit to me by giving up OW, he has started to comit to me in small baby steps by staying night with me again, or admitting he still loves me and needs me...
So my advice is......if you really want to make things work with your H and what you are doing seems to be working - then DONT change it....
If you are happy and want to sleep with your H, then do so... Dont stop yourself just becuase the text books say you shouldnt if deep down you want to... Do what you want to do... And let your H sort himself out in his own time... No pressure, no ultimatums, just try and GAL and enjoy yourself without him as much as possible...
He will notice this and this will make him want you more...
Read - why men love bitches - fantastic book!! will give you motivation...
