Imdi99, Though I am sorry to hear you are in my boat, it is quite a relief to know someone else is going through this as well. When I had a DB phone consultation, I was told that it is not too common for the WAS to express such attraction openly for the spouse they left. I will try to find your postings. It is so difficult because part of me truly believes that if I could withdraw from him completely that he would eventually miss me enough to question what he has done, and I don't really see OW as a long term threat - I believe that my H is feeling really sh*tty about himself and needs a daily ego boost, as well as someone to take the focus off of himself and the mess he has made of our family. They do not have the makings of a solid relationship, that is for sure!! Yet despite the fact that I believe that NOT having sex with him could very well get him back, I find it diffucult to say no. Tonite, he was here watching my daughter, and went out of his way NOT to try to sleep with me (unusual) but I think it is b/c last week was the first time we did that since OW came into the picture 5 weeks ago(not the first time he asked, though!), and I (foolishly!!) kinda started in on the "R" talks a bit, and got a little hurt and confused with regard to OW to him, and I think he is nervous to do that again b/c deep down he knows it is not fair to me. But it is only a matter of time before he cannot help it and tries again, happens every time. He never lasts more than 2 weeks, since we split up. He tried every once in a while even before OW to say we shouldn't sleep together, then always changes his mind right quick. I just hope I am strong when he tries, but somehow I doubt it!!! Is your sich like this too? Where he goes back and forth????
