Flutter- Welcome...sorry that you have to be here among us, but i'm glad you found someplace to go to "talk." I have to tell you, reading your post, i thought "gee, i could have written that." I won't get into my sitch here on your thread, but i am in a similar sitch in relation to the intimate aspects of my M. I don't know what to tell you...I too am weak when it comes to this. Its a hard thing. On one hand, you want to have that closeness with your H. But, on the other hand, you don't want to feel like he is "using" you...thats the dilemma i have. This whole thing is sooo complicated and it doesn't make any sense...it might never make sense. Lost is right...read DR if you haven't. Another great book is "Surviving Infidelity." And "Make up, don't break up" is good as well. In the long run, you need to do what feels right to you, in your gut. Do you think that maintaining the intimate part of your R will help? Just remember that you need to put yourself first and do what is emotionally healthy for you. I wish i could tell you what that is...but, if you read my posts, you'll see i have no idea .
Come back here often and post. Read about other people's situations. You will find much comfort here. Take care.
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