Hit the Wall....Am I on the otherside?

[Tim297181]

Thanx Rob!

You know I think I was able to truly detatch when I was able to believe and ACCEPT that my M was over and that a D was coming. Still very emmotionally but when my mind began to accept that decision the DB principles really made sense and started to work.
Through all this I never was able to detatch becasue I would not accept that my M was over and that a D was an option. Because I thought like that I was unable to detatch and clear my mind for myself.
If I had any advice it is this

Commit to saving your marriage and always have hope that it will happen. Once you are a clear on accept that you may end your M and that a D is an option. Sounds weird I know but you need to be able to accept both options, or you will not be able to move on. I completely denied the option of a D and once I accepted personally I felt myself grow, and GAL was a little easier.
Could you do all that while still in a marriage and not have to go through what I did? HEII YAH!
Anyways I still have a long journey ahead of me but what ever happens now I can accept without reservation. It makes it so much easier to deal with W and our R. I just hope now my W can put some effort back into our R to make it grow. Only time will tell!