Oh Tim, you are definately back on the Rollercoaster just read your last 3 posts. The first two are back to needy, desperate and clingy and then you slightly contradict that in your last post.
You are up and down like a Yoyo yourself, I think you are just doing things for a reaction from your W, like detaching you saw that made her draw a bit closer but then when things didn't go your way, you became desperate and needy and told her all those things.
Tim you have to get comfortable with yourself first and learn not to need your W to make you happy, make yourself happy, once that happens she will see that you are independant and not needy and clingy and that may attract her back to you and if it doesn't well you will have learned to be O.K. with that by then.
I hope this makes sense to you b/c it is all stuff that myself and other's have tried to get you to realise before but you are frustrating to us when you can't stay focused for just a little bit and you don't seem to understand the DB principles at all. If we are frustrated b/c we want to help you then you must frustrate your W too. I point this out to show you that you must work on you first.
Please understand this is not having a dig at you or trying to be nasty to you it is said out of concern for you and your sitch but if you continue with this self destructive behaviour it will never get any better and I do wish you every success.
Hoping you took this criticism the right way....Kim
