Hit the Wall....Am I on the otherside?

[Tim297181]

So today is another day!
I have seen a difference in my W since I left to Vegas last week. I have detatched alot more than I ever have and have been firm on my position in regards to our R. I have not chased her, and I have been friendly and supportive to her.
We have had several good conversations, but nothing really in regards to our R. I have told her I feel we are getting closer but I am still confused on how to act around her. She says she understands and will talk soon. We have hugged a couple times, and she has told me she still loves me and misses me. There is still a wall up from her but she seems to be looking out from behind it again. I am sure the OM is still living large in the picture, and that is tough living in the same house with my W.
I believe my W is reacting differently to me because of 2 reasons.
The OM is not a quality person, and she is struggling with that.
The second reason is she has done alot to hurt me, and show no respect to me or my feelings. She has admitted that, and I am still here supporting her in her goals of completeing school. The program she is in is very demanding and requires her to work very hard, and I continue to sacrifice my personal time, and financial sacrifices to ensure she completes school. I have been the person she goes to when she is stressed about school, and whether she is doing the right thing. All I have done has been the close friend she needs to help her and support her.
This has definetly opened her eyes that I am still standing by her when really if I treated her the same way she would have kicked my butt to the curb!
It has been a tough few days because I do want to work things out with my W and we are starting to reconnect and communicate better. My position has never changed but dealing with the PING PONG ball effect of my W is tough. SHe still needs her time and space, and I can't push. If she wants me she knows where to find me! I am upstairs in the taking care of the kids, house, and sleeping in the comfy king size bed! She is welcome anytime when she is ready and she punts the OM out of the picture! While she is deciding I am slowly moving forward!