Ok, don't over react, just observe and try to express the feelings you want to express. I don't know if we get in trouble so much for saying ILY, hugging, etc as we do for the expectations we build because of those. Your sitch is changing. You know that. Make sure the things you do reflect your goals. If your goal is still to preserve your M, then making her feel you are cold is about as productive as her thinking you're pursuing her. The "cold" feeling she has is probably perceived as a reaction by her, whereas a calm friendly detached demeanor would not be. I think you can still hug her. If she initiates things, you can still participate, just DO NOT believe in their lasting power. A hug is a hug for that moment and relish it for what it was. A kiss means I'm ok with you NOW but do not extend it farther. Just like when you date someone, those things are signs of someone warming up to you but I doubt you would project a happy marriage because of them so don't do that here. I may be off...anyone else?
