Hit the Wall....Am I on the otherside?

[Tim297181]

Well I got locked out of my post again!
Quick update for those out there.

This is part 3 of my posts.

Married 8 yrs
Dating 14 yrs
Me 34 yrs
W 35 yrs
2 kids 2 and 4 yrs old

Seperated in April. W and the family were supposed to move to the city we grew up in to further my career and start a new chapter of our lives. W decided to stay behind, after we had finalized the move. At the time unaware there was OM.
OM is the opposite of me. He is an alcoholic, admitted gambler, and former drug abuser. He is 7 yrs younger than my W and has no real ambition in life!
Lived in 2 different cities for the summer. Kids spent 2 weeks with me 2 weeks with her. In Oct I moved back to the same city as W to be closer to kids, start a less stressful and new career, and try to recouncil. Did the DB for several months prioir, and had success.
W moved back in with me and the kids in Nov, and we tried to recouncil for 2 months. OM never left the picture but we were dealing with it.
Went to Mexico after X-mas to celebrate our new beginning, and as soon as we got home my W was with the OM within days.
Now it is a month later and she seeing the OM openly in front of me, but still lives in the same house.

For the first time in days I truly have been able to detatch. I feel strong again. I hope it lasts!
Alot of it has to do with the fact that I went to C session today.
It reminded me that I am a good person, and have done the best I can!
I have to stop enabling my W to live her life without consequences. I have been there for the kids, and I have been there for my W despite her actions. She has not felt the consequences of her decision to be with the OM, and what impact that will have on her for going to school full time, getting a job, taking care of the kids, and where to live.
I am not going to go dark or be evil towards her. I will still be respectful and treat her the way I would treat anybody, but it is now time to see her reaction to her decisions.