Gosh HP. The only plus I see here is that your H is actually able to articulate things like "Gee honey, I really don't think of you as a lover." Kudos to you for not saying, "Then I'll find someone else who will." I'm sorta in that catty, sarcastic mood right now and I might have said something on that order or at least thought it.
I think you had it right when you said that you are both just some regular folks trying to raise your kids, have a life and keep some spark for yourselves. That is how I feel about H and I alot of the time. I am just so livid with him right now that I am projecting my need to shake my H onto your H. I want to shake him too. Mr HP, "What would it take for you to see HP as a lover. That is what she wants. Why do you persist in momizing her?"
Well - putting my more rational hat back on I have to ask - did your H offer any solutions?
