That's why Valentine's Day sucks. Too much pressure.

"You are gonna hate me for this but I honestly wasn't even thinking about you as a lover, I was just focused on getting you a gift from the kids."
Ouch. At least he sees the error of his ways (sort of). But you'd think by now he'd "get it"
But the other side of the coin, we've let slide due to having little ones and can't seem to get back in the swing of things.
How do other couples do it?
 I think your date idea is a good one. H and I are lucky because we have all the grandparents in town to help out when we want to go out. We make it a priority now. You NEED adult time away from the kids. Stick with it.
Why does it seem that one partner hungers for couple time and the other one really doesn't? Would the pendulum swing back the other way if I were suddenly to become as detached as he? He says it would. I told him that is NO comfort to me.
 I say BS to his comments that if you became detached he would step up to the plate more. Or am I not reading that right?
Then we got into a rollicking semi-arguing discussion re: religion. Until midnight.

I think he and I are still passionately in love with each other for the sole reason that we are complete opposites and piss each other off so well.
I think it's good for couples to have some passionate fights. Keeps things interesting at least
H and I are opposites in a lot of ways too. Boy can we piss each other off. But we are both learning that it is ok. I think it's good that you are arguing religion and not just focusing on what the kids have been up to. You need to stimulate each other's minds with some adult conversation. Get out of mom/dad mode more often. No wonder the mom necklace went over like a lead balloon