You know this has me thinking, since what your H said resounds so loudly with something my H had said to me. Do you think it's possible that he's experiencing the same thing my H has about me with sex....only for your H it's in the romance dept?
You know....my H was thinking I expected all sorts of new & different moves from him, that he had to constantly impress me, that I had to have xyz EVERYTIME....and he knew he couldn't do that, so he didn't even try. As he said in one of our MC sessions....he knew he couldn't do that.
He truly believed he had to out perform himself each and everytime he did something for me, so that paralyzed him from even trying. Is it possible your H is thinking he has to do something like the roses & candles or something equally as creative or extreme in order to "romance" you? Do you think he really knows (or believes) that romancing you could be really easy? That there could be such simple small things he could do that really take very little effort on his part? Remember....my H thought I was the space shuttle, it's a huge production to launch the space shuttle....I'm really a kite though, that takes much less effort.
Your saying what you did just made that little "ding!, ding!, ding!" bell go off in my head....kind of like aha! I hope I'm somewhere in the ballpark on this.
