Are you SURE you're not married to H's long-lost twin? The stuff about spearheading everything is just us to a T. And I know exactly what you mean about providing the spearhead AND the enthusiasm
Here in England you can get goats milk at the grocery store. I just never noticed it until someone mentioned it to me. If not then I would try a healthfood store. Goat's milk formula might also be available here is a link Goat milk infant formula. Glad to hear Babypot is feeling better though.
My thoughts are with you re your Dad, glad your sister could come and stay and kudos to H for giving up his spot in the bed!
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong