So sorry about baby. I'm sure that there are a variety of alternatives but going through them to see what works might be hell right now. I was sad when I weaned baby and felt a little less womanly so I agree with Chrissy?? that you might throw that factor in.
I am very sorry about your Dad. My H's Grandfather is very ill and between that and continuing home repairs and some work emergencies I have not had any posting time.
HP - FWIW, I do see your H continuing to make strides but due to the new job pressures I'm thinkin he just doesn't feel very sexual nor very R focused. Right now, the "he-man" side of him does want to go into that cave and when he comes out he't not really looking for sex but for that nice domestic picture that makes all of his efforts worthwhile. Problem is - everything has fallen down around you like rain and so he hasn't been coming out to June Cleaver he's been coming out to....Who? Well, not your best HP, anyway.
Should you have to prop him up? Should you have to be June Cleaver? Only to the extent that you want to be. Only to the extent that it is part of your own identity as a woman. Only to the extent that filling his needs fills a small portion of your own. KWIM? Do your part in your M but take care of YOU too. Your H needs your support but doing too much cheerleading winds up taking away some of his own feelings of accomplishment when he finds out that he can make it through.
The upshot of my fine advice? Love your H. Love your Dad. Love yourself. Relax and let things fall into place. Like blackfoot suggested, a little fun couldn't hurt either.
