H is sleeping....The change in him is dramatic, already...We are going tonight to buy a new weight set for him so we can start working out together in the mornings, before the kids get up
I am so pleased. for you both.
just where is H, anyway? And then even when I specifically ask, in a nice way, for what I want he still goofs off for the next week, wrapped up in his own mind, and I have to say it AGAIN.
Thats why its called crashing insecurities. Hmm who said this first? was this one of my novel ideas? I never did essay it. ah well some lurker will just steal it and make money in a e-book. (I see you )
anyways I now have a coded reminder to myself of this. Hope it works, for me, next time
These men are *frustrating*!
yes quite right. so annoying. like the H's that are hanging out with their 'friends', 'putting on anothers green' and, hunting for the next 'trophy' at the local 'watering hole'.
I almost forgot about that aspect diaper rash urghh. Exspecially if it is viral and oh so painful for baby and mommy. (what ever you do do not use vasoline on it).
My oldest boy had to drink predigested milk. Allimentum I believe it was called. Smells terrible like the bottom of a trash can sitting for a month in 100 degree weather. But what about soy based milk products? Also are you sure it is not transitional from breast milk to milk instead of a intolerance?
My hat goes off to you poor girl. Though yes later you will see you are at the best years of mommy hood there are. I know right now it does not look so great from were you are sitting.
I agree that these are the golden days of my kids' lives--and my interaction with them. However, that doesn't really help me get through a shitty day, kwim.
This is in a book that I own and I believe it illustrates it perfectly:
"The years rush past, as every older woman will tell the young mothers who complain that they still have two little ones at home and it seems like forever before they will all be in school. Oh no, they say, time flies--enjoy them while they're young--they grow up so fast... The mothers agree that indeed the years do fly. It's the days that don't. The hours, the minutes of a single day sometimes just stop. And a mother finds herself standing in the middle of a room wondering. Wondering. Years fly. Of course they do. But a mother can gag on a day." -- Jain Sherrard
Thanks for all the suggestions. I'll be really ticked if I have to put her on formula now, at 16 months. I've taken her off milk and we'll see if things improve. Chrissy, thanks for the vaseline advice...see there, the doctor told me to do vaseline! He said desitin then a layer of vaseline. Didn't matter anyway as I don't have any vaseline anyhow. (D6 and I made lip gloss with it one day, lol)
Had a nice night last night. I was fried when H got home and he was very understanding. I cannot believe the change in him since starting this new job. Really, it's more than a new job; it's a whole new routine for our family. Ever since we've been married, he's gotten up and left in the wee hours. Now he's home and we eat breakfast together and spend some time together. I'm more motivated and energetic in the morning because he's there and his energy is contagious. I think when it's all said and done that we will look back and remember this as a turning point for our family..the time when things started to really gel.
Quote: Now he's home and we eat breakfast together and spend some time together. I'm more motivated and energetic in the morning because he's there and his energy is contagious. I think when it's all said and done that we will look back and remember this as a turning point for our family..the time when things started to really gel.
We'll see.
Damnit, now I will get less sleep. I believe you have inspired me to wake up when my W does rather than spend those 2 hours in and out of a pseudo sleep. Some QT in the morning may be a real nice way to start the day.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
"Chrissy, thanks for the vaseline advice...see there, the doctor told me to do vaseline! He said desitin then a layer of vaseline. Didn't matter anyway as I don't have any vaseline anyhow."
We switched from Desitin to A&D ointment awhile back and it works great. It even helped clear up a problem that one of the twins had. I didn't completely understand it but it was something about how her "opening" was closing up as a reaction to being in frequent contact with urine or something like that. We just slather the A&D ointment on every time we change her diaper and that problem has cleared up, no need for prescription medication. She will even say things like "I need med-cine on my bottom daddy" if I'm in a hurry and forget.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
"Damnit, now I will get less sleep. I believe you have inspired me to wake up when my W does rather than spend those 2 hours in and out of a pseudo sleep. Some QT in the morning may be a real nice way to start the day."
The W and I have the opposite situation. I wake up well before her and do the morning chores so that she can sleep longer (the newborn tends to nap well in the early morning, so that is one of the few times she gets good sleep). I use the morning to get QT with the twins, and yes it is a great way to start the day. They were walking around after I fed them b-fast this morning holding hands and saying to me "see, she's my friend" and then hugging each other and saying "I love you sissy."
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Yeah my D6 had that bottom closing problem too. It did clear it up, you're right.
H said the same thing about A&D last night so I may pack em up and go buy some. She's had diarrhea for 2 solid weeks now (ever since being weaned from breast milk to cows milk) around the clock and she is paying the price, poor wee lassie! Today seems a little bit better than yesterday, though, so I will call it an improvement. She still shrieks like a banshee every time she goes to the bathroom and has this pitiful bowlegged walk (can you even imagine a baby walking bowlegged cause it hurts? It is heartbreaking!) but she'll pull through. She won't drink soy milk and formula's so blasted expensive and smelly, I was hoping to avoid it. Ah well, that's life right!
"She's had diarrhea for 2 solid weeks now (ever since being weaned from breast milk to cows milk) around the clock and she is paying the price, poor wee lassie!"
Ugh! My heart goes out to you and her.
"can you even imagine a baby walking bowlegged cause it hurts? It is heartbreaking!"
I don't want to think about it. I get upset thinking about infants in pain. Can't even watch TV shows that have scenes showing infants being hurt anymore. My boss has a pre-mee with a malformed trachea, so he has a breathing/feeding tube in his neck. He says the baby cries just like any other baby, making that pitiful face and open mouth, but no sound comes out except a little gurgling from the tube sometimes. I'm getting teary-eyed just thinking about it. Ugh! Ugh! Ugh!
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
So sorry about baby. I'm sure that there are a variety of alternatives but going through them to see what works might be hell right now. I was sad when I weaned baby and felt a little less womanly so I agree with Chrissy?? that you might throw that factor in.
I am very sorry about your Dad. My H's Grandfather is very ill and between that and continuing home repairs and some work emergencies I have not had any posting time.
HP - FWIW, I do see your H continuing to make strides but due to the new job pressures I'm thinkin he just doesn't feel very sexual nor very R focused. Right now, the "he-man" side of him does want to go into that cave and when he comes out he't not really looking for sex but for that nice domestic picture that makes all of his efforts worthwhile. Problem is - everything has fallen down around you like rain and so he hasn't been coming out to June Cleaver he's been coming out to....Who? Well, not your best HP, anyway.
Should you have to prop him up? Should you have to be June Cleaver? Only to the extent that you want to be. Only to the extent that it is part of your own identity as a woman. Only to the extent that filling his needs fills a small portion of your own. KWIM? Do your part in your M but take care of YOU too. Your H needs your support but doing too much cheerleading winds up taking away some of his own feelings of accomplishment when he finds out that he can make it through.
The upshot of my fine advice? Love your H. Love your Dad. Love yourself. Relax and let things fall into place. Like blackfoot suggested, a little fun couldn't hurt either.
Vasoline holds in heat. Next time you get a little burn apply some you will see what I mean. A@D ointment awesome for just after baths but also can hold in the heat to some degree. But has great healing /protective qaulitys. If the skin is peeling and real raw get some neosprine with mild pain meds in it. Let her wear sissys pantys at nap time or no diaper. you might be faced with a little mess to clean but the air will do wonders. And then the biggy no juice of any sort. Acid acid acid. Koolaid or pedialite. Cannot give her any anti dirreha meds do to her age. Unless they have came out with one only for kids in the last few years (rye syndrome). But bananas and peanut butter. Aveno baths frequent even if that is a sink bath. Let her dry throughly before ointments (girl yeast infection risk).
And yes I know you have done this before. I just remember S15 and how bad and fast his bottom would tear up after simple things like a change in water types (well or city) And S13 had rodo virus which left him raw and infected and hospitalized. So I know how terrible it is to watch your child walk all cowlegged and thought I would pass on what I learned from it.
(I see you 
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