Hi HP, (((((HP))))) Your sitch is unbelievably and freakishly similar to mine and your H sounds like a carbon copy of the one I've got. Constant need for WOA and propping not able to prop in return. Only manage to give a bit of practical support when directly requested etc.
We are a little further on from where you currently are. My mum died in Nov 2004 and it was exactly the same thing H did not deal well with me not being my usual cheery self. He handled it OK until she actually died by being helpful in practical ways but literally the day after the funeral he had a screaming row with me basically telling me I had to get back on with propping him up now it was all over. I tell you HP I have never felt so abandoned in my life. Grief takes a while and this past year has not been good with us. But we are slowly making progress again and I am slowly getting my energy back to the old levels. So there is hope but I guess you will have to hunker down for a while and get your support from more reliable sources. Just know when he acts like an a$$hole he is not the only one and your natural happiness and cheery nature will pull you through this
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
